Describing feelings of “heartbreak” and “betrayal,” Dallas-based purple belt Danny Davidson has revealed to the Jiu-Jitsu Times that his girlfriend has been living a double life as a heel hooker for the duration of their three-year relationship.
Davidson, a self-described “family man,” says that he was under the impression that his partner, Allison Childs, lived the same “moral, IBJJF-approved” lifestyle that he did.
“We lived a quiet, simple life,” he told the Jiu-Jitsu Times. “I always thought we were the typical white-gi, Gracie-worshiping couple. We made a vow of no leg locks before marriage, for goodness’ sake. I could’ve forgiven her if she’d experimented with a little knee-reaping before we’d met, but this?” Here, his voice trembles.
Childs, a brown belt, says that her secret lifestyle was mostly a way to pay the bills. “It’s nothing against Danny, really,” she said. “But the men writing the big checks want to see the dirty stuff. The sub-only lifestyle may be extreme or scandalous to some, but paying to enter a tournament and winning by an advantage just isn’t enough to earn significant cash anymore.”
Davidson says he first got a hunch that something was wrong when his girlfriend started getting “impatient” with his attempts at straight ankle locks. “She called them ‘vanilla,'” he says. “She said, ‘We need to spice things up on the mats.’ I thought she was just talking about wristlocks, which, yikes, but I can keep an open mind. I never would have expected something so… disturbing.”
Childs didn’t deny her boyfriend’s statement. “Danny isn’t bad on the mats. He’s just inexperienced. And he takes way too long to finish. I understand his need for the traditional positions like mount, but I tried to ease him into the idea of experimenting with the 4-11 and got accused of being a ‘freak.’ I never thought I’d be sub-shamed by my own partner.”
Childs said things really blew up on February 14, when Davidson walked in on her watching a John Danaher instructional. “He came home early from work to surprise me with flowers,” she says. “I tried to close my laptop in time, but he knew. He got really mad and said, ‘Is this what you’re into? Are my armbars just not cutting it for you anymore?’ And I was like, ‘No, that’s what bicep slicers are for.'”
It was then that the truth came out. Davidson found his girlfriend’s “provocative” stash of brightly colored rashguards and unicorn spats. He says he knew then that it was beyond a fantasy — his partner’s attention and effort was completely divided. “I told her that I care deeply for her, but I can’t do the love triangle thing,” says Davidson. “She asked if a love triangle was a savage new choke, and I knew she was already too far gone.”
Childs has volunteered to move out of the couple’s shared home and says that although she acknowledges that keeping her side gig a secret was wrong, she feels that her boyfriend has treated her unfairly. “I practice safe subs. The idea that heel hookers wear shoes on the mats and are constantly infected with ringworm and staph is a myth. And it’s all consensual — I’d never touch a white belt’s legs.”
While the couple considers themselves broken up for now, both have hopes that they will reconcile… even though they each seem unwilling to budge. “I’ve suggested couples’ therapy,” says Davidson, “But she says the only middle ground between chokes and leg locks is a twister, and I don’t think I’m willing to bend that much.”
“I tried to change for him, I did,” says Childs. “But once you get that feeling of power — the knowledge that you can snap a human knee with just the right leverage — I was foolish to expect that I’d ever be able to go back to being a woman of the cloth.”
At press time, Davidson was reportedly drowning his sorrows in an oversized bowl of acai and watching Marcelo Garcia YouTube videos on repeat.
Featured image by Trinity SP Photography
I am into heel hooks too. Let’s hook up.
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