Vanessa âLil Monsterâ Demopoulos is a daredevil by nature. From performing acrobatics two stories up in the air â wearing nothing but her underwear â to delivering beatdowns in a cage, Demopoulos has never been afraid of walking on the wild side. âObviously, I like doing crazy shit,â she tells The Jiu-Jitsu Times, laughing with good-natured self-deprecation.
A former competitive pole dancer and exotic entertainer turned professional MMA fighter, Demopoulos won over fans at UFC 270 as much for her boldly charismatic authenticity as her first-round armbar submission victory over Silvana Gomez Juarez. âThe only reason I was so successful as an entertainer is that I was just my goofy-a*s self,â says Demopoulos. Itâs an attitude she continues to embrace wholeheartedly in the octagon.
When asked whether her now-viral post-victory leap into Joe Roganâs arms was a spontaneous stunt or part of her fight night plan all along, Demopoulos gives a coy little grin. âI planned that,â she admits. âWhen I found out I was going to be on camera with Joe Rogan, I was like, âyo, heâs so cool, bro, heâll be down.â I donât know how down some of the other announcers would have been, but I know Joe Roganâs just a fun guy, you know?â
Demopoulos shines under the spotlight. Born to parents whoâd met in the entertainment business themselves, performance is in her blood. While many rookie fighters find themselves suffering from stage fright during their first tango in the octagon â not just because of their opponent, but because of the spectators â Demopoulos embraces her audience. âIâm an entertainer at heart, and Iâm not just talking about pole dancing,â she says. âI love the lights. Iâm about that life.â Later, she adds, a bit mischievously, âAnd hey, if I can get on stage in front of hundreds of people in my underwear and totally fail â because I fall sometimes as a dancer too, Iâm not perfect, bro! â Iâll slip and fall and have to stand back up and play it off. Iâve fallen publicly, Iâve fallen privately, and Iâve gotten over a lot of those fears.â
Demopoulosâ origins as a fighter, she explains, really began when her manager at work â who moonlighted as a kickboxing instructor at the time â âstarted talking shitâ to her one day. âI was doing all my tricks,â Demopoulos remembers, âand he was like, âyou know, if you put half that skill that you put into the pole toward fighting, you might do something with your life.ââ
Never one to back down from a challenge, Demopoulos asked him to teach her to fight. He refused initially. Undaunted, Demopoulos persisted, which was how that same manager became her first martial arts coach. The rest is history.
âI get really competitive,â she admits, âand I put a lot of pressure on myself, not for any other f*cking reason besides the importance [of a fight] to me. And that in itself can make someone tense up.âÂ
Luckily, her career in exotic entertainment has equipped Demopoulos with nerves of steel â which has served her time and again in the cage. âPeople donât realize that [being an exotic performer] isnât easy,â she explains. âYouâre entertaining in front of an entire crowd of people, so you canât just stop and take a break. When youâre in the cage, fighters might stop and chill, like you can take your moments, but you donât have those moments as a dancer. You donât have those breaks â youâve got to keep going. And pole dancing is so physically demanding â every trick engages every muscle in the body at the same time, and you have to be able to balance yourself, know where you are in space, and figure out your next transition, without even being able to see anything. You just have to trust that you know what youâre doing well enough to move fast enough to grab the pole in time while youâre doing the craziest stunts.â
In other words, itâll take an awful lot to rattle Demopoulos â or for her to let you see her sweat. âDuring a fight, thereâs so much thatâs happening at the same time, you have to be able to calm yourself down,â she says. âYou have to be in the moment, and relax amidst the craziness.â And relaxing amidst the craziness is an art sheâs perfected. After all, when youâve climbed two stories high in the air and find yourself in danger of losing your grip on a pole, thereâs no tapping out to gravity.
âI remember being at a pole competition in Miami,â Demopoulos recounts. âI was doing this trick where I was upside down, and I remember my arm didnât lock â so my feet flew over the top of my body while I was in a scorpion backbend. Thank god I caught myself before I could fall to my death â because one hand was still on the pole â but I was at least two stories high, in the middle of a competition.â
Demopoulos, though, has always been a thrill-seeker, and she gravitates toward going against the grain. As a teenager, she was an avid skateboarding enthusiast â who lost a few teeth in the process â and the only girl on the football team. Yet itâs not entirely fair to call her a tomboy either â a professional dancer since the age of eighteen, and a seasoned exotic entertainer, Demopoulos may know how to bro out, but sheâs equally comfortable glamming up.Â
âMan, you want to talk about giving yourself permission to be anything that you want to be? When I want to do my hair and makeup, I can. When I want to be a super chill in my comfy clothes, I can do that too.â Demopoulos brims with characteristically frank good humor, as she details the multitudes she contains. âAnd I donât care who judges me. You can be beautiful, and choose to be comfy, and it takes so much confidence sometimes, just to be comfortable as a female, and it shouldnât be like that, you know? We should be able to be whatever the freak we want to be, whenever we want to be it. I just give myself permission to be fully anything that I need to be, at that moment. I think thatâs one of my superpowers, to be honest, and I think thatâs really freaking cool.âÂ
What do her parents think of their daughter leaving the âfamily business,â so to speak, in favor of the octagon? âMy familyâs used to me being wild,â says Demopoulos. âIâve always loved doing the craziest sports with the highest risks, so when I got into fighting, they were like, âoh, Vanessa, another thing.ââ She fondly mimics her parentsâ sighing, put-upon tone â âtheyâre Greek, mind you,â she explains â as she describes their utter lack of surprise at Demopoulosâ daredevil antics.
While they may be entertainers themselves, certain parental attitudes are near-universal, and Demopoulosâ folks are no exception. For quite some time, they treated her fighting like a fad: yet another wacky hobby for their exuberant daughter to grow out of. When Demopoulos began traveling the world to compete in jiu-jitsu, they started taking it a little more seriously, but also asked, perhaps a bit plaintively, âWhen are you going to get a real job?â
Not a refrain most would expect to hear from a DJ father and an exotic dancer mother, but Demopoulos laughs it off now.
âIt wasnât until LFA got to UFC fight pass that my family was like, âoh wow, okay!ââ says Demopoulos with a grin. âTheyâve always been my biggest fans, but also my biggest voice of resistance â because I care about what they think.âÂ
Fighters and pole dancers, on a purely physical level, actually have a surprising amount in common, particularly at the highest levels of their respective occupations â commonalities that have served Demopoulos well across both careers. âWorking as an entertainer is crazy,â says Demopoulos. âIâm on my feet for eight hours a day in ten to twelve-inch stilettos, doing all these crazy tricks, and when I go on stage, Iâm coming from dancing on the floor to then going on stage for a solid six to ten minutes at a time â and thatâs just pure, intense gymnastics. In MMA, we fight for fifteen minutes, which is a long time, but Iâm doing that three times a night at work.â
Pole-specific athleticism has also paid dividends in Demopoulosâ fight game on a technical level, especially her jiu-jitsu. The pole has gifted Demopoulos with an unusually powerful grip, core, and back strength. Itâs also granted her tremendous spatial awareness in uncomfortable positions, particularly when inverted. âHow do you think I pulled off that inverted triangle choke that put my opponent to sleep back in LFA?â Demopoulos jokes.Â
Pole may have its foundations in sex work, but itâs increasingly viewed as an athletic discipline in its own right, a cousin of sorts to both traditional gymnastics and aerial circus acrobatics. Dancers have grueling conditioning regimens, an arsenal of complex physical vocabulary to master, and even competition venues ranging from local events to major international championships. They perform and compete through injuries both minor and major. Some have even advocated for the pole to be recognized as an Olympic event â a movement not unlike the age-old debate around whether or not Brazilian jiu-jitsu should become an Olympic sport.Â
Put that way, pole as a professional discipline starts to sound a lot like, well, fighting.Â
Does the sex work label bother Demopoulos? âItâs not what I prefer,â she says with a shrug, âbut it is what it is.â Sheâs well aware of the popular perception of exotic dancers and isnât afraid to call a spade a spade. Sheâs also proud of her previous profession, and happy to embrace the publicâs fascination with her sex appeal. âFuck it, Iâm the Cardi B of MMA, baby, letâs go!â she exclaims. Sheâs happy to discuss what exotic dance entails â though it does get a little weird sometimes. âUnfortunately, guys are sometimes a little too fascinated by that side of my life, maybe for the wrong reasons,â Demopoulos admits. âLike, man, if you want to know what the back of a room is like, go buy one.â She laughs. âI donât know what to tell you, dude, every dancerâs different!â
Combat sports and pole dancing have also both been commodified â and some would argue, sanitized â for popular consumption in recent years. Once upon a time, if you made your living in the cage, you were considered a violent goon by genteel society, and if you made your living on the pole, those same yuppies assumed you were a tramp. If you wanted a respectable reputation in polite society, you simply didnât engage in activities with those connotations.
Not so anymore â thanks in large part to the boutique fitness industry. Doctors, lawyers, and finance professionals pay pricey monthly membership fees to attend hobbyist MMA classes or join pole fitness studios. Demopoulos points out that these days, a professional pole competitor can win up to a hundred thousand dollars in prize money at prestigious competitions, and that a sufficiently well-regarded pole dancing coach can quickly build a solid income off their teaching skills.
What does Demopoulos have to say about both her chosen professions â previously the target of pearl-clutching and frequent misunderstanding â making a very lucrative splash in the mainstream?Â
âI told you so!â she crows, delighted. âI told you it was cool! I was doing pole dancing before pole dancing was a thing, you know? When it started becoming a thing, I got my license to be a pole dancing instructor, and I had people who wanted me to run studios.â Those same studio owners were shocked that Demopoulos chose to fight instead, unable to understand why she would want to âget punched in the faceâ instead of pulling in good money as a pole instructor.
âMan, Iâve caught so much shit from both sides about the other side,â says Demopoulos, with regard to both the pole dance and combat sports worlds. âI was just doing what I believed in. Iâm really, really good at dancing. Iâm good at making a lot of income in a short amount of time to feed this dream of being a fighter, and I was self-taught in pole dancing. There werenât instructors back when I started. There were no crazy names for tricks; they were just tricks. I just did them, I just figured them out â which translated over to MMA, because thereâs so much wild shit that happens in MMA, youâve got to go with the flow. I taught myself this whole entire dangerous art form, you know, I can learn this too.âÂ
How would Demopoulos react to more MMA fighters hopping on the pole for a bit of creative cross-training to get an edge on their opponents? She laughs, exclaiming, âEryk Anders! Eryk Anders is one of my teammates, and as soon as I won, he put up a meme that was like âIâm gonna get a pole to start learning jiu-jitsu!ââ Anders may have been kidding, but it might not be a bad idea. Demopoulosâ advice for any aspiring pole dancers or aerialists in the MMA community is simple and practical: âWork on your fancy feet, and only do tricks that are close to the ground.â
Nevertheless, Demopoulos has no regrets about leaving the pole for the cage. âI donât miss that shit,â says Demopoulos. âI love dancing. Iâm always going to love dancing, because Iâm passionate about the art, but I donât miss being completely drained and exhausted one bit.â
Itâs easy to understand why. Overtraining was a real issue, back when Demopoulos was juggling two careers as both fighter and dancer. âThereâs zero recovery time,â she explains bluntly. âLike, none. There were times when Iâd accidentally put myself into a flu state, because Iâd overwork myself, and my body would freak out and break down on me. Or like, I remember one time, I had some super serious injuries, and I was like, âokay, you know what, this limb is super f*cked-up right now, but Iâve got three others, so weâll figure this out, you know?â So Iâd just wrap it up and keep going. Iâd go to work, and have KT tape all over me, and customers would be like, âwhatâs this, are you ok?â And Iâd be like, âhaha, yes, itâs just a new style of tattoo!ââ
âIt was a wild balance,â Demopoulos reflects in hindsight, âbut I also feel like thatâs why Iâm so f*cking tough. I never took a break, not if I was injured, not if I felt like I just needed some time, I just f*cking pushed through it, man. I had to.âÂ
So whatâs next for Demopoulos in the octagon? Unlike a lot of up-and-coming fighters, sheâs not interested in calling out anyone specific or manufacturing a rivalry right now. âIâm gonna let my manager take the reins on that one,â says Demopoulos, cool as a cucumber. âA lot of people thrive off [that sort of thing],â she observes, âwhere theyâll be like, âoh man, Iâve talked too much shit, I canât back off now!ââ Demopoulos, in contrast, remains steadfast in her own goals, which is to take a measured approach to the fights ahead, whatever comes her way: âIâm just gonna say Iâm chilling right now.â
This isnât to say that other fighters donât continue to influence â and impress â Demopoulos. âCory McKenna surprised me the most,â she says when asked which of her opponents have given her the most memorable fights. âShe grew up in weightlifting her whole life, and I felt like I had her in some very compromising positions. I felt like I was winning on the feet, but she was the one who surprised me. Sheâs a very skilled little girl â I think sheâs only twenty-one years old or so, itâs crazy. I wouldnât mind fighting her again.â
When asked if there are any top-ranked UFC fighters sheâd particularly want to emulate, Demopoulos names Tecia Torres. âI have so much respect for anyone in the top five â or even the top ten for that matter,â says Demopoulos, âbut I would definitely say that Tecia Torres has got some really awesome tenacity in her striking abilities. Sheâs just so seasoned, sheâs been fighting literally her whole entire life, and her striking just looks very sharp. Thatâs just really cool to me.â
Demopoulos, though, is also heavily focused on cultivating a memorable fighting style of her own: âIâd like to take my strengths, and mesh them with something like [Tecia Torresâ style].â Sheâs savvy enough to understand that fans have developed certain expectations of favorite fighters. We know weâre going to see high-level grappling any time a Demian Maia fight hits the ground, the same way we expect spectacular kickboxing from the likes of Stephen Thompson and Israel Adesanya.
What does Demopoulos hope her own calling card in the cage will be? âExpect the unexpected,â she says. âIâve out-struck strikers, and Iâve out-grappled grapplers. Sometimes, crazy shit happens â my face gets mangled, and Iâm still fighting, Iâll eat a right hand for breakfast, lunch, and dinner, then somehow pull off a submission. How are you gonna pin me down, man? Letâs go! Expect the unexpected when youâre watching me because thereâs going to be some wild shit popping off.âÂ
On a technical level, she hopes to develop herself as a grappling specialist with heavy hands, in the vein of Charles Oliveira. âBetween submission or KO, Iâd prefer to win a fight by KO,â she tells the Jiu-Jitsu Times right away when asked to pick one or the other. âJust, winning by KO, how cool is that? Grapplers knocking people out? Letâs do that!â Stylistically, of all the major MMA sub-disciplines, jiu-jitsu still remains her first love. âIâm always gonna favor jiu-jitsu,â confesses Demopoulos. âIf you left it up to me, Iâd be grappling three times a day. I definitely work a lot on my striking, and I work a lot on my wrestling because I have to develop those arts as well. My jiu-jitsu gameâs not going anywhere, as long as I continue to maintain that. But Iâve got to upgrade the other software a little.âÂ
Demopoulos hasnât ruled out getting more involved in pure sport jiu-jitsu either. Sheâd love an ADCC invite, for example. âIâm still competing in jiu-jitsu all the time,â she points out. âI just did the Medusa tournament back in October for Eddie Bravo â every chance I get, Iâm gonna work towards that, but right now my focus is MMA.â
For someone as active and exuberant as Demopoulos, itâs hard to imagine her slowing down, but thereâs a quiet and contemplative side to her as well. Outside of the cage â and the clubs â Demopoulos loves some downtime with a good book. Sheâs also an author in her own right, having penned Stripper Bible, an instructional on the exotic entertainment industry. Her goal is to write six books in her lifetime, and sheâd love for at least one of them to be about her martial arts experiences â though that might have to wait until after retirement, or between training camps. âIt takes so much to write a book,â says Demopoulos. âIt takes so much of my mental capacity, as well as my emotional capacity, and I feel like I only want to fill that tank with fighting right now.âÂ
Demopoulos remains a performer through and through, but her most important audience is still first and foremost herself â an attitude that she encourages everyone to embrace: âPeople see me now, and I donât know what their impression is of me, but I didnât come from anything,â says Demopoulos. âI had to work my f*cking a** off â and so much more â for everything that I have, and no one really believed in me along the way. I had my sister, and a few friends here and there, but people have come and gone. I just want people to know: yo, believe in yourself man! Get a plan, understand that sh*tâs going to be hard, but you can do it. Just make it f*cking happen â not for anybody else, not because you told Joe at work you were gonna do it. Do it for you. Do it because you love it. Do it because your soul is screaming for it, and donât give a sh*t whoâs watching. Speak from the heart, live from the heart, and make that sh*t happen for yourself.â
To keep up with Demopoulosâ MMA career, you can follow her on Instagram.
To read Stripper Bible, you can order a copy from Amazon.Â